Do you say YES or NO to opportunities?


Experiences and impressions hits us all the time, and many of them at times when we are not aware of their importance. When I was introduced to mindfulness for the first time, as part of a process to deal with stress, I didn’t realize how significant it would be for my life later. At first I thought it was stupid and wasteful. Now it’s a lifestyle.

We are bombarded every day with knowledge and opportunities that can really change our lives in a positive direction, but we are not always ready to receive these new impressions. I am now aware of many concepts, mechanisms and tools that I can remember having been introduced to earlier, but that I just wasn’t ready to receive in both the consciousness and the subconscious mind.

How many times a day are we presented with opportunities that could change our lives for the better? Where we simply do not see these options because they are not accepted in our subconscious mind! To say YES to these strange and unimaginable opportunities, “feels” wrong. How often have I not heard myself and others use that phrase, “it felt wrong, so I said NO.” I have discovered that everything feels wrong when it’s unknown and new, and it’s often the reason that makes us say NO to new opportunities.

Let me say it quite clearly: as long as you make your feelings decide, there will never be changes in your life. You say, “why are good things never happening to me? Why do others experience that their lives are exciting and packed with opportunities?” The secret is that new opportunities are offered when you open your eyes and see them and dare to explore them. Then you will find that opportunities are dumping for your feet – constantly.

I think of Jim Carrey’s movie “YES MAN”, which is about a man – Carl Allen – who always feel ignored and never feel that good things happen to him. He says NO to all opportunities that present themselves for him, and even his best friends are trying hard to get him to realize that the reason that nothing good happens to him is that he himself  is the reason for his misfortune. He is simply not capable of seeing this himself.

A day, Carl is coincidently invited to an event with a spiritual guru whose philosophy is embracing all possibilities and literally saying YES to everything. Now something finally happens in his life. After being in the claws of the charismatic guru, Carl leaves the event with the conviction that if he says NO to new opportunities, terrible things will happen. Thus inspired by the fear of these terrible things, Carl is now saying YES to all the opportunities offered to him. This creates a lot of trouble for him, but slowly in all the challenges, he begins to realize that life blames him because he blames it.

Listening to your feelings is always a good idea, but we do not always have to act on them. Next time you face an opportunity that at the same time feels exciting but also feels “not right”, try to decide to explore the opportunity. Before you teach yourself to get used to the feeling, “being in the unknown and uncomfortable”, there will never be new opportunities in your life. Each time we say NO to opportunities offered, it may in fact be a NO to something amazing, and something that may end up being the best we have experienced. Such experiences I have had many of the last year. If you really think about it, you may have experienced the same. But did you say YES or NO to the opportunities?

Our reality

What a summer! In fact, one of the most beautiful I can remember. The weather has been breathtaking and the summer holiday has offered peace and space for thought. Especially when Mette broke her poor ankle and we all had to stay on the terrace for the summer. But something that could have been a really bad experience, cause we had to say goodbye to the cottage on the West coast and a trip to Crete, ended up being a beautiful family time in the garden. We all decided to have the most beautiful vacation we could create together. With the situation that were now. This was a confirmation of an important insight I have learned in the last year. We create our reality!

Our reality is exactly the way we create it. We make it what it is. Everything starts with thoughts: an idea, a belief. All that is needed to create our reality is an idea. There is nothing in this world that has not existed as pure thought. The idea is the first level of creation. Then comes the word. When we pronounce words, it’s an expression of a thought. Then comes action. Actions are when we decide and do instead of just thinking. Actions are expressed thoughts. We create our lives with thoughts and then we live them through our actions.

The way I now live my life is to be aware of the space between thoughts and when the unexpected and what I would categorize as “bad” and uncomfortable arrives, which are often negative thoughts about situations we do not want, then I just accept them. I’m not fighting against them. I acknowledge them, but decide to let them pass as clouds in the sky. It is a choice and a decision we can make when we are conscious and leave the world of thought to rest in the being.

Our vacation was beautiful and we got closer as a family because we decided that that was what we wanted from the situation we suddenly found ourselves in. That’s how I’ve also chosen to deal with my impending blindness. It is a condition I cannot control myself. I accept it and love it as it is. It’s my life and I will get the most out of it, as it is. It’s a liberating way to live! I am grateful for what I have and love, enjoy, give and live. Just think about it: I had to loose my sight to finally see.

Five minutes before the talk…

That was that. Now I’m really at the other side of the four challenges I gave myself in the summer of 2017. A mission that would challenge entrenched limiting beliefs. Last night I gave talk to 150 people at a complete sold out venue. It was an intense experience, and among the audience there were friends, family and acquaintances.

Twenty minutes before the talk, I went behind the stage to get focused on the task. I could feel the nerves announce their arrival, but ten minutes of walking meditation made the difference. When I went on stage, all the nerves were gone and I was ready.

When I walked up and down the hall way there in the basement, and my heart started pounding, and my knees got soft, I repeated over and over in my mind, “it’s fun, it’s fun, it’s fun, you love this, it’s a great feeling, YOU’RE ALIVE! “, and slowly the body turned back to a more neutral state. The nerves disappeared, the pounding heart relaxed and my legs regained their strength. Again, I demonstrated to myself that the autopilot as the subconscious mind, can be tamed and controlled when I create a focus in the RIGHT now.

The talk went great and the air crackled. After the talk, I received this message from one of the spectators,

“Hi Morten
Thank you for a sincere, good and inspirational talk. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences. You know how to capture an audience  and convey your messages masterfully. I’m sure many will use you as a role model, because of the way you’ve taken control of your life and not let your eye disease control you. Wishing you all the best in the future and “Then Why worry” always brings a smile on my face because it’s so true. “

When you finally can say “ahhhh”

I CAN do it!

Three days to go! Then it’s time to give my very personal talk SENTENCED TO BLINDNESS – THEN WHAT? in front of a public audience in Almind Forsamlingshus. It’s not new for me to give talks and I’ve performed for groups of people where I didn’t know a soul among the audience, but talking in front of family, friends, neighbors, acquaintances and unknowns. Pheeew … “What will they think? Will it be awkward? Will people think it’s too much? Will they be bored? Will they think I’m not good enough? Will they be excited? Will they be inspired? Questions like these are created by the mind based on experiences from the past.

And notice that they are predominantly negative. Scientists have discovered that the vast majority of thoughts we humans think are negative and based on fear. Fear of not being good enough or not being successful. Some of you guys reading this post may say “fear … not with me!” And many of you girls reading this may say, “hmmmm maybe he’s on to something.” 😊 These are subconscious programs programmed into the subconscious mind. And the programmer is the life we have lived in the culture we have grown up in.

When I’m on stage Wednesday I will be completely ready and have managed to silence the voices saying “But Morten … do you really think they want to hear you at all?”, because I’ve discovered that you can actually do just that! You only have to discover that the voices are there and that they control the majority of our actions in our lifes disguised as subconscious thoughts.

When you finally can say “ahhhh I discovered that the thoughts are an illusion,” you have become the observer of the mind and then you are ready to break the barrier that is yourself.

Now my negative voice is quiet again, and the voice that says “Come Morten – YOU CAN DO IT” sounds aloud in my inner ear. I’m looking forward to Wednesday, and I know we’ll have a fantastic, inspiring and energized evening with room for thought, laughs, coffee and cake.

The talk will be en Danish.