BOOK-UPDATE#2

These days I go through my manuscript for the last time before I let go of it, and several thoughts have emerged. Things I didn’t quite see the first three times I worked through the book, and once again I must say that our way of seeing the world and ourselves comes from the way we consciously and unconsciously interpret our world.

The following dawned on me when I today removed moss between the tiles in my driveway and thought about what I had read in my book earlier in the day.

Joy and happiness do not exist – out there!

Sadness and sorrow do not exist – out there!
Joy, happiness, sadness and sorrow are part of what we call life. Wanting one over the other, will only result in a life of frustrated search and imbalance. We cannot have more happiness than sorrow, for everything in this universe is in balance. Only we are not.

Eckhart Tolle describes it so simply: “Accept the present as if you have chosen it yourself”.

When we accept that all our problems through life are created in our own mind, through our interpretations of the situations we end up in – voluntarily or involuntarily – we can begin to look at all situations as neutral. They just ARE and it is up to us to let them be the path of life instead of BUMPS on the path of life.  Instead of something that should not be there, BUMPS can be accepted as part of living.

Joy and happiness cannot be a goal in the future (that was the goal I set for myself two years ago), because then it will remain in the future. We will never achieve it, for joy and happiness can only be found in the NOW, and when the NOW is accepted as it is, we can influence the next NOW in the decision we are making right now. In this way it becomes so clear to me that NOW is the only thing that exists, and what a relief.

My wish for you as a reader of my forthcoming book is that you might find the same freedom and relief as I did.

Love,

Morten

Do you say YES or NO to opportunities?

 

Experiences and impressions hits us all the time, and many of them at times when we are not aware of their importance. When I was introduced to mindfulness for the first time, as part of a process to deal with stress, I didn’t realize how significant it would be for my life later. At first I thought it was stupid and wasteful. Now it’s a lifestyle.

We are bombarded every day with knowledge and opportunities that can really change our lives in a positive direction, but we are not always ready to receive these new impressions. I am now aware of many concepts, mechanisms and tools that I can remember having been introduced to earlier, but that I just wasn’t ready to receive in both the consciousness and the subconscious mind.

How many times a day are we presented with opportunities that could change our lives for the better? Where we simply do not see these options because they are not accepted in our subconscious mind! To say YES to these strange and unimaginable opportunities, “feels” wrong. How often have I not heard myself and others use that phrase, “it felt wrong, so I said NO.” I have discovered that everything feels wrong when it’s unknown and new, and it’s often the reason that makes us say NO to new opportunities.

Let me say it quite clearly: as long as you make your feelings decide, there will never be changes in your life. You say, “why are good things never happening to me? Why do others experience that their lives are exciting and packed with opportunities?” The secret is that new opportunities are offered when you open your eyes and see them and dare to explore them. Then you will find that opportunities are dumping for your feet – constantly.

I think of Jim Carrey’s movie “YES MAN”, which is about a man – Carl Allen – who always feel ignored and never feel that good things happen to him. He says NO to all opportunities that present themselves for him, and even his best friends are trying hard to get him to realize that the reason that nothing good happens to him is that he himself  is the reason for his misfortune. He is simply not capable of seeing this himself.

A day, Carl is coincidently invited to an event with a spiritual guru whose philosophy is embracing all possibilities and literally saying YES to everything. Now something finally happens in his life. After being in the claws of the charismatic guru, Carl leaves the event with the conviction that if he says NO to new opportunities, terrible things will happen. Thus inspired by the fear of these terrible things, Carl is now saying YES to all the opportunities offered to him. This creates a lot of trouble for him, but slowly in all the challenges, he begins to realize that life blames him because he blames it.

Listening to your feelings is always a good idea, but we do not always have to act on them. Next time you face an opportunity that at the same time feels exciting but also feels “not right”, try to decide to explore the opportunity. Before you teach yourself to get used to the feeling, “being in the unknown and uncomfortable”, there will never be new opportunities in your life. Each time we say NO to opportunities offered, it may in fact be a NO to something amazing, and something that may end up being the best we have experienced. Such experiences I have had many of the last year. If you really think about it, you may have experienced the same. But did you say YES or NO to the opportunities?

Five minutes before the talk…

That was that. Now I’m really at the other side of the four challenges I gave myself in the summer of 2017. A mission that would challenge entrenched limiting beliefs. Last night I gave talk to 150 people at a complete sold out venue. It was an intense experience, and among the audience there were friends, family and acquaintances.

Twenty minutes before the talk, I went behind the stage to get focused on the task. I could feel the nerves announce their arrival, but ten minutes of walking meditation made the difference. When I went on stage, all the nerves were gone and I was ready.

When I walked up and down the hall way there in the basement, and my heart started pounding, and my knees got soft, I repeated over and over in my mind, “it’s fun, it’s fun, it’s fun, you love this, it’s a great feeling, YOU’RE ALIVE! “, and slowly the body turned back to a more neutral state. The nerves disappeared, the pounding heart relaxed and my legs regained their strength. Again, I demonstrated to myself that the autopilot as the subconscious mind, can be tamed and controlled when I create a focus in the RIGHT now.

The talk went great and the air crackled. After the talk, I received this message from one of the spectators,

“Hi Morten
Thank you for a sincere, good and inspirational talk. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences. You know how to capture an audience  and convey your messages masterfully. I’m sure many will use you as a role model, because of the way you’ve taken control of your life and not let your eye disease control you. Wishing you all the best in the future and “Then Why worry” always brings a smile on my face because it’s so true. “