How to become a master of your life
19. April 2019
Have you ever imagined how your future could be? Have you thought the thought, “if I had just said yes to that opportunity which appeared that time in the past”. Have you had a feeling that you could do a lot more, be much more brave? And maybe you came so far in your stream of thoughts that you could almost see yourself doing brave things in the future. It was so real for a moment that you could feel it.
I think we all have had that feeling – I know I have – and maybe you have that feeling right now? But as many times before after this feeling and thought appeared, you experienced that the feeling (the vision) disappeared in a blink of an eye. The outer circumstances where not ideal, it was the wrong time in your life, you had too much on your plate, and people around you, could not understand and help you on the way.
For the last two years, I have worked intensely with this topic. I have studied, read and immersed myself in it, and I can now see a pattern form on how to create big changes in life. And why should I be interested in that? You see, I have an eye disease that slowly makes me blind, and two years ago I was fixed in the belief that I could not do more in this world because my vision slowly disappeared. My life had come to an end, and I gave up. And in fact, it was just that surrender to my life situation that started the process: to build a new me. To grow larger than the disease that slowly makes me blind.
Strangely the process for me has been upside down compared to how I think many learn new things in life. I have acted before I have understood. I have let me be inspired before I really understood what I was inspired by. After I wrote my book about how to see possibilities instead of limitations, and after giving more than 30 talks about the process I have undergone, I am now starting to understand the deeper processes in the process.
I think that modern humans biggest misconception is the belief that it is outer events, that are the reason why our lives turn out as they do. The belief seams to be that it is outer circumstances that create our reality, and not our own consciousness.
In my case it was my vision loss that caused my problems in life – I thought – but in fact, it was my perspective on losing sight that was the cause for my problems. Not the actual loss of vision.
All that is happening in life, all that we do in life, all of our actions, all that is coming from us, happens as a result of our state of mind. Our consciousness is a result of all that we believe, want and desire. A total of what we believe is true and what we can accept. Our beliefs! Therefore, if we want to change behaviour, and develop better versions of ourselves, we need to change our consciousness, before we can change our outer world. Our lives.
And now I am writing something that can sound strange in many peoples ears, because It’s not a normal belief in our society, and therefore not something we have learned from our parents, teachers and our culture. I have learned about it in ancient philosophy: that if you want to change or reach a goal, you have to begin to assume that your wish already is fulfilled. If you can keep your dream, your intention crystal clear in your imagination, you can create an ideal for the person you want to be and assume that you are already that person.
It is important here to make it quite clear that this must not be an escape from yourself. Before you can begin this journey, you have to be lovingly best friends with the life situation you are in. Accept that your life situation is as it is because you have created the life you are living now and that all that is in it, and everything you have experienced, good or bad, has created the person you are today.
I know it is hard to swallow because you surely haven’t chosen to have a disease or sad circumstances. Nor have you chosen that a person near you tragically is torn away from you.
But the way we handle these situations is our own choice. We can use these situations to perish or to grow and develop. By accepting your life situation, you can change your story and “your personal drama” into wisdom. Learn from the past to finally release it.
When you can accept your life situation, you can begin to imagine your new Life. You can decide that your future should be different from the situation you are in now. Assuming and imagining long enough how you want to be and how it will feel, over time it will become your dominant feeling, and the achievement of your ideal will be inevitable.
Here I speak from experience! The ideal you hope to achieve is always ready to take shape in you if you allow it to be born in you. Here you understand that ONLY YOU can create the inner state needed for this new ideal to arise in you. YOU carry the key to this transformation!If you want to grow and change, your whole mindset must change. But your thoughts cannot be changed unless you get new ideas and inspiration, for new ideas create new thoughts.
I believe that all transformation begins with an intense, burning desire for transformation. An idea. The first step in “renewing the mind” is the desire for it to happen. You must want to change before it can come. And then you have to start making your future dream a present fact.
I decided that for 30 days I would act and think like my future “SELF”. I wanted to teach myself to see possibilities rather than limitations, and realize that life is a truly amazing and unique gift. I DECIDED to do this with all my heart.
My experience is that we usually observe and get to know things by mentally looking at them from the outside, and then comparing with other things we already know – by thinking of them, but I went one step further. I decided to be the person I wanted to be before I actually became him.
I decided to be happy, I decided to become a speaker, I decided that I could still be a Senior Art Director at LEGO with only four degrees vision, that the world is great even though I lose my vision. I decided to be all these things before they really were in my outer world. I didn’t just think and talk about it, I LIVED it.
In fact, I was ready and willing to kill my old self, to make room for a new one. That experience I had at the job center a cold December day in 2016. I experienced all my old identities die, and realized that I could now create exactly the new identities I wanted. Just this time I would never make the same mistake to identify with these identities. They are only avatars – not our real self, for the self is the awareness that observes the identities.
Can you now see that, in light of this realisation, it does not make sense to expect that the birth of your new and better YOU, will happen by itself? What requires your awakened consciousness to produce cannot happen without such a state of consciousness, and in your ability to imagine the feeling of being the version of yourself that you want to be, you use one of humans greatest gifts – IMAGINATION – the instrument with which you create your world. Your imagination is the instrument of liberation from your old “YOU”.
Imagination is the way to create your new YOU. But creating this new YOU is your free choice. It is YOUR choice whether you want to remain your current version of yourself, or you can choose to become the instrument of your own transformation, by IMAGINING yourself what you want to be.
